Music Monday ~ Respect ~ ABC of Love

Please forgive me but this prompt in connection with Music Monday is somehow a no-brainer 😉 . I just can’t help it 🙂

 

Feels somehow that this song still has some actuality. Sadly!

Respect ~ Aretha Franklin (via Google)

What you want
Baby, I got it
What you need
Do you know I got it
All I’m askin’
Is for a little respect when you get home (just a little bit)
Hey baby (just a little bit) when you get home
(Just a little bit) mister (just a little bit)
I ain’t gonna do you wrong while you’re gone
Ain’t gonna do you wrong cause I don’t wanna
All I’m askin’
Is for a little respect when you come home (just a little bit)
Baby (just a little bit) when you get home (just a little bit)
Yeah (just a little bit)
I’m about to give you all of my money
And all I’m askin’ in return, honey
Is to give me my propers
When you get home (just a, just a, just a, just a)
Yeah baby (just a, just a, just a, just a)
When you get home (just a little bit)
Yeah (just a little bit)
Ooo, your kisses
Sweeter than honey
And guess what?
So is my money
All I want you to do for me
Is give it to me when you get home (re, re, re ,re)
Yeah baby (re, re, re ,re)
Whip it to me (respect, just a little bit)
When you get home, now (just a little bit)
R-E-S-P-E-C-T
Find out what it means to me
R-E-S-P-E-C-T
Take care, TCB
Oh (sock it to me, sock it to me, sock it to me, sock it to me)
A little respect (sock it to me, sock it to me, sock it to me, sock it to me)
Whoa, babe (just a little bit)
A little respect (just a little bit)
I get tired (just a little bit)
Keep on tryin’ (just a little bit)
You’re runnin’ out of fools (just a little bit)
And I ain’t lyin’ (just a little bit)
(Re, re, re, re) when you come home
(Re, re, re ,re) ‘spect
Or you might walk in (respect, just a little bit)
And find out I’m gone (just a little bit)
I got to have (just a little bit)
A little respect (just a little bit)
Songwriters: Otis Redding
Respect lyrics © Warner/Chappell Music, Inc, Universal Music Publishing Group

This post takes part in “Love Is In Da Blog 2018” and answers to the prompt “respect

 


 

NEW Blogging Prompt ~ Respect ~ ABC of Love

As I am writing this it’s “Couples Come Dine With Me” on the TV and one of the participants can’t say Boeuf Bourguignon. Everybody is laughing terribly about her efforts which isn’t particularly respectful, is it? I admit it was funny though.

Is that a good anchor for tomorrows prompt? I guess it is :-). Prompt 19 is

Respect

And just to remind ourselves of the rules/suggestions of Love Is In Da Blog:

“Love Is In Da Blog” Rules/suggestions

    1. Join in! No matter where, when and with what. You missed the first day or week? Don’t worry. Just jump in when it suits you.
    2. Send us the link! Unfortunately, my blog is now self-hosted and the ping-back option does not always work. So please leave a link in the comments on the day of the prompt that you are writing to so we can all come and visit you.
    3. Tag your post either with “Love Is In Da Blog” or #LoIsInDaBl. You can also use these as hashtags for Twitter and other Social Networks to give your post more exposure.
    4. No matter which medium the prompt favours you create with them whatever you please, and whatever length you please (no pun intended ) as long as it is about “LOVE.”
    5. If you like, use this picture for your readers to find the posts. 

Now go, create and have lots of fun!

 


 

 

A Question of Self-Love and -Care ~ ABC of Love ~ Love Is In Da Blog 2018

It is a question of self-care to find the right balance between life and work. The problem is that this balance changes. The problem is also that we often do not listen to our inner voices and do not follow them either. For me, it is time to listen to that voice. Looks like my inner voice used the black dog to shout at me what I know for a long time but haven’t been courageous enough to follow up. Therefore, today some photo’s to give me some time to listen.

Take good care of yourselves!!!!!

 

Between Trimmingham and Mundesley beach

Noerdlingen in Germany

Glastonbury Tor

NEW Blogging Prompt ~ Question ~ ABC of Love

There is no question my dear readers that the participants of “Love Is In Da Blog 2018” do a great job. Thanks so much to you bloggers out there who let yourself be challenged by my prompts. It’s a joy to read your posts.

Love, however, opens up a Pandora’s box of questions from “Does my bum look big in this?” to “Am I worth loving” and anything in between. Let’s take some of those questions and use them for tomorrows posts. Therefore  prompt 18 of “Love Is In Da Blog 2018” is

Question

That should be an interesting one :-).

And for the rules and regulations:

“Love Is In Da Blog” Rules/suggestions

  1. Join in! No matter where, when and with what. You missed the first day or week? Don’t worry. Just jump in when it suits you.
  2. Send us the link! Unfortunately, my blog is now self-hosted and the ping-back option does not always work. So please leave a link in the comments on the day of the prompt that you are writing to so we can all come and visit you.
  3. Tag your post either with “Love Is In Da Blog” or #LoIsInDaBl. You can also use these as hashtags for Twitter and other Social Networks to give your post more exposure.
  4. No matter which medium the prompt favours you create with them whatever you please, and whatever length you please (no pun intended ) as long as it is about “LOVE.”

 

5. If you like, use this picture for your readers to find the posts. 

LoveBlogprompt18

Now go, create and have lots of fun!

 


 

Fellow Bloggers who wrote about “Questions”:

Jacqui Biggar: To #Blog or Not to Blog, that is the Question #Writerslife #mgtab

Summer Starts to Shine: No further Questions (Attention might trigger)

 

 

 

NEW Blogging Prompt ~ Passion ~ ABC of Love

Thank you so much for taking part and reading “Love Is In Da Blog 2018” ~ The ABC of Love!

I can’t have an “ABC of Love” without passion, can I? There are many passions in our life and mostly they are a love of ours too. May it be our favorite topic, clothes or our husbands/partners/lovers. So for tomorrow, I offer you:

Passion

So please, give me your passions in blog post form and if you haven’t taken part yet find out how here:

 

“Love Is In Da Blog” Rules/suggestions

  1. Join in! No matter where, when and with what. You missed the first day or week? Don’t worry. Just jump in when it suits you.
  2. Send us the link! Unfortunately, my blog is now self-hosted and the ping-back option does not always work. So please leave a link in the comments on the day of the prompt that you are writing to so we can all come and visit you.
  3. Tag your post either with “Love Is In Da Blog” or #LoIsInDaBl. You can also use these as hashtags for Twitter and other Social Networks to give your post more exposure.
  4. No matter which medium the prompt favours you create with them whatever you please, and whatever length you please (no pun intended ) as long as it is about “LOVE.”
  5. If you like, use this picture for your readers to find the posts. 

LoveBlogprompt17

Now go, create and have lots of fun!

 


 

Fellow Bloggers who wrote about “passion”:

Alice wake up: Do It With Passion

Seet Aroma: ARE YOU PASSIONATE ABOUT PASSION OR LOVE?

 


 

 

Poem on Friday ~ Open ~ ABC of Love

These Three

closed down my heart

closed down my mind

closed down my feelings

closed down  my life

Hope

Love

Faith

these three

will open my life

will open my feelings

will open my mind

will open my heart

If

                                                only

I

let them!

 


This poem takes part in “Love Is In Da Blog 2018” and answers to prompt 16 “Open


Fellow Bloggers write poetry about love:

 

Throwing my Heart out: Love Poetry

A Teachers Reflection: Dog Lovers and Book Lovers: The Poets Dog

 

 

 

NEW Blogging Prompt ~ Open ~ ABC of Love

Do you think my “Love Is In Da Blog 2018” prompts are chosen a little random? Maybe, however, there is so much more to love than we often take into consideration. “A vast field” as Effi Briest’s Father said in the novel by Theodore Fontane one of the books I enjoyed reading at school.

So where is the vast field guiding us today?

Open

is tomorrow’s prompt for “Love Is In Da Blog 2018”.

And here the rules/suggestions for taking part:

“Love Is In Da Blog” Rules/suggestions

  1. Join in! No matter where, when and with what. You missed the first day or week? Don’t worry. Just jump in when it suits you.
  2. Send us the link! Unfortunately, my blog is now self-hosted and the ping-back option does not always work. So please leave a link in the comments on the day of the prompt that you are writing to so we can all come and visit you.
  3. Tag your post either with “Love Is In Da Blog” or #LoIsInDaBl. You can also use these as hashtags for Twitter and other Social Networks to give your post more exposure.
  4. No matter which medium the prompt favours you create with them whatever you please, and whatever length you please (no pun intended ) as long as it is about “LOVE.”

5. If you like, use this picture for your readers to find the posts. 

 

Now go, create and have lots of fun!!!!!

 


Fellow Bloggers Wrote about open/love:

Waking up on the wrong side of 50: Eyes Pretty Wide Open

A Lively Experiment: Let My Love Open the Door: Part One

 

 

 

Mindfulness Nurtures ~ ABC of Love ~ Love Is In Da Blog 2018

The only reason I am blogging like a maniac right now is that my anxiety is playing up enormously. It has become so bad at work that I can’t go and even going out with the dog or shopping starts to be a nightmare. My heart races, I see enemies everywhere and most certainly something really bad is going to happen. That about sums my state of mind up at the moment.

I have been introduced to Mindfulness before

Through therapy I have been introduced to Mindfulness a couple of years ago and I have made it my goal to stay in the moment as much as I can. I experience this attitude as nurturing as it gives me a feeling of peace and safety: I am not my feelings and thoughts. I “just” experience them. However, there are moments when I just can’t reach that point anymore. I feel so overwhelmed with a feeling of dread, despair and hopelessness that nothing seems to get me out. These moments seemingly come out of nowhere. They used to have a trigger but now they just seem to come no matter what I do to care for myself and nurture my Wellbeing.

As I mentioned before in “Joy ~ ABC of Love 11 ~ Love Is In Da Blog 2018” my new doctor is a rather forward thinking person. So instead of ushering me into using anti-anxiety medication he let me borough the book “Mindfulness a practical guide to finding peace in a frantic world”.

My doctor gave me a book about Mindfulness

It is written by Mark Williams who used to be a professor of clinical psychology and Danny Penman a meditation teacher and journalist. In my doctors opinion this is the best book on Mindfulness. It gives a detailed introduction about what Mindfulness is and the scientific research that is gone into it. Then it gives you a 8-week course on how to integrate Mindfulness into your life.

I started reading it directly when I got it last week, however, much of the introduction was already known to me so I decided to skip these bits and directly go to the course bit. So today I start the tasks given me by the chapter: “Mindfulness Week One: Waking up to the autopilot”.

Mindfulness Week One: Waking up to the autopilot and me

At first I was introduced to the fact that a lot of our life runs on autopilot. You get up, clean your teeth, get dressed, have breakfast, go to work, come back, eat and go to bed without often realising what you are eating, how your coffee tastes and where you are sitting. You mind is so scattered and is running amok that you cannot experience what is directly around you. The funny thing is that I feel exactly like that at the moment (and I thought I had developed a mindful lifestyle a while ago 🙂 ).

It then introduces you to the “Raisin Meditation” and gives examples on how different people experienced this meditation. I had seen, felt and tasted the raisin in a meditation already when I was invited to a course by the Wellbeing Service. I love raisins and it is really difficult for me not to gorge them down so I am not quite sure if it really worked 😉 but I can’t really remember how it was anyway. So maybe I have to do that one again in a quiet moment.

Maybe I fare better with the Body and Breath meditation? I have only tried it once so far. I am supposed to do it twice a day but failed miserably already. Firstly I fell asleep last night when I tried it and then forgot this morning. But the good thing about Mindfulness is that there is no goal as such that you “need” to achieve. If you could not do it just start again and focus on what you experience rather than blaming yourself for not doing what you are asked to do.

Changing autopilot actions with Mindfulness

Another point the authors make for the first week is to do one of your autopilot actions differently. So, if you sit in the same place at home all the time sit somewhere else and focus your attention on how you feel, what you think, all in all what is going on in and around you. So this morning I asked the best husband (Jeremy Clarkson voice) in the world if he would mind to sit on the other side of the sofa for this week. So he did. I would love to tell you what an extremely interesting experience it was, however, it just made my anxiety bigger. Wish I could tell you its much better but it still feels rather strange. However, Mindfulness is a process. There is much to discover I think until next week.

So what are my mindful experiences for this week?

  • do the Raisin Meditation
  • do one “autopilot” action with full attention: I chose drinking my tea with full awareness
  • do the Body and Breath Meditation twice a day
  • Habit Breaker: I sit somewhere else

One more thing that just happened is that I somehow bring my attention back to the here and now with whatever I do. I walked the dog this morning (yes I managed but with some difficulty 🙂 ) and my mind just jumped around between how it will be to go back to work, blogging, connecting with my spiritual guides, anxiety….. You get the gist. But in between these attention jumps I brought my attention back to the sun and the wind on my face, to the way my boots slipped on the muddy path, to the smell of burning wood further down….

Mindfulness for Life with Mark Williams

I can give you a glimpse on how I experience Mindfulness and how I get on with this course. However, it is good to either read the book for yourself (its not only great if you suffer from a mental health problem) or find out more about what Mindfulness means from other resources. I found a lecture by Mark Williams one of the authors of “Mindfulness a practical guide to finding peace in a frantic world”. Here it is for you to make up your own mind about mindfulness:

 

Resources:

Oxfordmindfullness.org

Franticworld.com

Greater Good in Action

 


This post is part of “Love Is In Da Blog 20182 and answers to the prompt “Nurturing


 

Fellow Bloggers blogging about Mindfulness:

 

MePTSDandallthatfuckedupShitinbetween: that ‘mindfulness’ thing

Campari and Sofa: Cultivating mindfulness (when you have no choice)

 

 

 

NEW Blogging Prompt ~ Nurturing ~ ABC of Love

Ah, you gave us some magnificent posts! It is such a pleasure to visit your blogs and see your creativity bloom!

Now, let’s see what the N in the “ABC of Love” has to offer us. Well, we have explored some general aspects of love and some more physical ones. Now let’s go back to our roots even though my prompt word today has not only something to do with our childhoods.

I offer you

Nurturing

for tomorrow’s “Love Is In Da Blog 2018” prompt.

And to invite some new participants to take part here the rules/suggestions for taking part.

 

“Love Is In Da Blog” Rules/suggestions

  1. Join in! No matter where, when and with what. You missed the first day or week? Don’t worry. Just jump in when it suits you.
  2. Send us the link! Unfortunately, my blog is now self-hosted and the ping-back option does not always work. So please leave a link in the comments on the day of the prompt that you are writing to so we can all come and visit you.
  3. Tag your post either with “Love Is In Da Blog” or #LoIsInDaBl. You can also use these as hashtags for Twitter and other Social Networks to give your post more exposure.
  4. No matter which medium the prompt favours you create with them whatever you please, and whatever length you please (no pun intended ) as long as it is about “LOVE.”

5. If you like, use this picture for your readers to find the posts. 

 

Now go, create and have lots of fun!!!!

 


 

Fellow Bloggers wrote about “Nurturing”:

On Dragonfly Wings with Buttercup Tea: Nurt Thursday – Crossing Bridges

Savvy Raj: On Nurturing

 

 

 

A Magnificent Blogpost ~ ABC of Love ~ Love Is In Da Blog 2018

Ok, I might have gone a step too far with this headline because I really do not know how to write a magnificent post.

Sure I am after it since I started writing blog posts in 2009 and I have visited many pages that promised me to teach me how to write magnificent posts. You guessed it: they don’t really work.

How can I break into the lucky lot of magnificent bloggers?

There are so many magnificent looking blogs and pages out there. They show flawless pictures and their blog and page owners have made it. They earn thousands a month and have the blogger lifestyle and I sit there in awe and wonder how I can break into that lucky lot.

Well, I hate going to the hairdresser and I never wear makeup. So a beauty blog isn’t it. Our lifestyle is rather DIY and our house belongs to the artifacts and pebbles we find at the beach and to our dog.

Re-purposing is our motto and I am just that little bit messy and that certainly doesn’t make for high-res pictures to attract thousands of readers. I don’t dare call myself a “Mental Health Advocate” or a “Self-published author”.

Is there anything I am magnificent at?

Doubt it very much.

So what’s my niche?

Blogging success without Facebook?

How to fail annually with being well and working?

Doubting myself daily?

not likely magnificent blog post topics!

However, I have a magnificent mission in life:

Empowering my fellow humans to follow their dream and love themselves a little bit more every day!

My full name is Beatrice and there is an explanation out there for it that means:

She who brings joy and blesses!

So why shouldn’t I bring some blessings to myself????

How to make my flaws magnificent?

No, of course, not how to make them magnificently worse, you silly thing! But I just had a crazy thought: Why not make my flaws into an advantage? Surely there are more people out there who just make ends meet and can profit from a DIY lifestyle. People, who have that dream to live a little bit easier and not work their bums off for employers who don’t give a sh… if they are well and how they can cope with all those little and huge dramas that life throws at them? People, who also feel that huge darkness inside of themselves and fight every day to not let that darkness win and despite everything believe in hope, love and a better future for all of us?

After all, Edison gave a lot of us today people some light and is known to have said:

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” ― Thomas A. Edison

Well, so far I have only managed to find about 13 – 14 ways how it doesn’t work. Which definitely means I have another 9986-9987 more tries to make it!

That is a magnificent opportunity I think ;-)!

And what is your flaw that you could change into a magnificent opportunity? Please share in the comments!


This post takes part in “Love Is In Da Blog 2018” and answers to the prompt “Magnificent“. And if you wonder what the above post has to do with love. Well, I love blogging, that’s all!


Fellow Bloggers writing about blogging:

New Lune: How to monetize your blog

Milly Schmidt: How did I grow my blog?